Your Priority in Marriage

Everyone has their own opinions about why divorce happens.  Communication, finances, and infidelity can all contribute to divorce but there is one thing that many divorced couples also have in common: They forgot to remember that their spouse is their number one priority.  Let’s face it – life happens. Daily responsibilities can get in the way but it is important to remember that those struggles are the same events that helped you develop your strengths. Your spouse should be there with you to make those struggles easier.  You must remember that your spouse comes first.

When a couple has children, one spouse always tends to change the priority from their spouse to their child(ren), but that should not be the case.  Children are definitely a priority; however, they should be immediately behind your spouse on your list of priorities.  When your children are out of the house all you will have is your spouse.  You must maintain the connection between one another.  There may be stresses that your spouse is going through that you do not understand or know about.  Make sure that they at least know you’re there and they are your priority, no matter what is going on.

Here are some tips to help you maintain the spark and connection in your marriage:

1.  Say “I Love you” Constantly.  Not only say it, but mean it.


2.  Have monthly date nights.  Having date nights can help you remember where you started and helps you remember how you first fell in love.  Bringing your children (if you have any) does not constitute a date night. So, find a babysitter, dress up nice and fancy, and enjoy each other.  Time away from the kids (especially for stay-at-home moms/dads) is a MUST!  Don’t know what to do? The Poynt Application (for Android and iPhone) is free to use and lists upcoming events in your area.  Is money an issue? Groupon is a great way to have a date night on a budget.  Whatever you do, take this time to talk about your future and reminisce about the past.


3.  Show your spouse that you love them through your touch.  It doesn’t have to necessarily be in public (not everyone likes PDA), but take opportunities to kiss and show affection to your spouse. Sometimes it’s the small moments that make all the difference.


4.  Cook dinner for your spouse.  Yes, cook dinner.  This is something that I believe that everyone should work on.  Do not just buy dinner, but take the time to cook it.  If you are a horrible cook, go to a cooking class.  Cooking is usually an unexpected gesture of genuine romance. It shows that you actually took the time to make something special for someone. That’s a great date night opportunity in itself!


5.  No matter how busy you are, you can always end your night with a romantic massage.  If you do it right you never know where it can lead and this will definitely help keep the romantic spark in your marriage!




the author

Adrian T. Marable has motivated and inspired many men and women to lean forward in their personal and career lives. He has a proven track record of creating the path of success for the "average Joe" which includes career, personal, educational, and spiritual satisfaction. Adrian's mission in life is to promote a successful mindset which leaves the individual with the mental tools to be successful.